Heart to Heart - Communication Exercise
In our society, there are so many taboos and subjects 'we do not speak about'
concerning intimacy, relating and sex, that we literally become isolated
within our own thoughts, conditioning and beliefs
Establish a direct, honest and open communication with your lover and you're on your way to intimacy.
In the following communication exercise you will practice 3 methods of communication in order to create deep and intimate experience: eye-to-eye communication, sensitive touching and verbal communication.
Eye contact, softly gazing into each other's eyes, without words, allowing your thoughts to flow, and your feelings and body sensations to be present, creates a deep experience of oneness.
Lovemaking is probably the most powerful communication method. Be aware of your messages. Soft physical touch, flowing and agreeable, creates a deep experience of connectedness.
Honest, direct and open verbal communication creates a deep experience of sharing, care and vulnerability.
Heart to Heart Communication Exercise
Give yourself and your partner an hour for this process.
You will need two chairs and a dim-lighted room where you won't be disturbed.
Both of you should be familiar with the different stages of this process.
Sit opposite your partner while your knees touching, but without any other physical contact.
For 10 minutes just gaze softly into each other's eyes.
Be receptive, soft and gentle.
Allow your thoughts, feelings and body sensations to be there, but don't identify with them.
Stay present.
When 10 minutes are over bring your knees in between your partner's knees, but still avoid any other physical contact.
While maintaining eye contact ask your partner, "Tell me something real about you".
Let your partner keep answering that question, and just stay present, listening.
Avoid any reaction or physical contact.
If your partner is spacing out or seem to be out of words, encourage him or her gently to go on by repeating sensitively, "Tell me something real about you".
After 10 minutes change roles.
This time your partner asks you: "Tell me something real
about you".
And you answer.
After 10 minutes are over, both of you close your eyes.
Begin to whisper in your partner's ear how would you like to be touched.
And your partner should follow your instructions exactly as asked, without talking and without initiating.
After 10 minutes change over.
This time your partner whispers in your ear how he or she would like to be touched, and you should follow the
instructions.
After 10 minutes, both of you keeping your eyes closed - freely and sensitively touch each other simultaneously,
experiencing the feeling of deep connection and intimacy that arises.
After 10 minutes find a way to thank each other to complete the process.