How to have sex more than once a month

by John
(Washington, DC)

My wife and I have been married for 22 years. For the last couple of years, my wife has wanted sex less and less. It seems that we have it monthly. When we have sex, she does not want any foreplay, no kissing, etc. She wants to get right to it. As soon as it's over she is ready to go to bed.

Many times, especially if it is after 11:00, her comment is you're lucky you got it this late.

When the kids are out I suggest having sex and she thinks I am a sex addict. It has gotten to the point that I don't even ask for sex anymore. I feel like a high school kid begging his girl friend for sex.

When I try to talk about it I get an "oh well."

Any advice?

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Nov 19, 2008
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by: Nazia

I don't know this topic. This topic is very necessary for information.

Nov 02, 2008
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Don't lose hope!
by: alisa bowman

I would absolutely recommend working on the foundations of your marriage first - romance and communication are key.

The person who wants sex the least is the one who has the most power. The person who wants it the most has the least. If one of you initiates most of the time and the other says no most of the time, your relationship is out of balance. Create a more equal distribution of power by:


1. Agreeing on a sexual frequency that you can both live with. Twice a week. Once a week. Once a month. Compromise.


2. Then either schedule it, or have the person with the lower drive do the initiating. The only rule is that you HAVE to stick to the pre-determined level of frequency.


Good luck!



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Aug 28, 2008
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Romance
by: BentJeff

Have you tried being romantic?
Such as planning a candle lit dinner or a moonlight walk?
What about planning a regular date night where you just talk with out expectations? You never know what might pop up!
If you just want sex from her...that is not what she is looking for...she wants to connect with you on a deeper level...in other words you have to build the cake before you get to the icing on top.
Take your time, and make sure she know's (but not by you telling her) how much thought and effort you put into your date night.
Make sure you make the date night all about her.
Listen a lot. Understand her...and she will turn on with out you trying to seduce her.
Eventually, you might be able to initiate a regular date night once a week.
....And no, I am not a female.


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