Relationship Advice: How to Heal a Broken Trust?
Question
I'd like to know if you have any relationship advice to overcome mistrust in a relationship due to past experiences in the same relationship.
Our Relationship Advice
Broken trust takes time to heal.
In order for broken trust to heal, you must make very strong commitments and absolutely follow them to allow new behaviors to happen, so that whatever broke the trust is not repeated.
You need to be patience and gentle while allowing this time of healing and change to happen, but most important of all, you must see that both of you take committed steps to insure that whatever caused the hurt will not happen again - whether that is a commitment to counseling, or other ways of healing and changing behavior.
Also, as a general relationship advice, we recommend that speaking your truth and following it is of the utmost importance. You must make very clear what is acceptable and what is not. You must make clear what happens, what you feel and go through, when the trust is broken.
And you must be willing to follow through on consequences if the trust continues to be broken.
That sometimes means needing to end a hurtful relationship, and you must be prepared to take this step if your partner refuses to change their behavior, if it is serious enough and too hurtful and debilitating to remain in the relationship.
We hope this relationship advice helps...