Relationship Advice: I Am No Fun to Be With
Question
I have been married for 5 years and my wife said that she is not sure that she wants to be married anymore because I am no fun to be with.
After sulking and feeling sorry for myself for a few days, I had to admit that what she said was true. I am no fun to be with and don't know how to lighten up.
So my question is how does a serious 34-year-old male lighten up?
Our Relationship Advice
Inside every man and woman there is a little boy or girl who wants to come out and play.
The "little boy" in you has been buried for a long time and it is the threat of losing your wife that is forcing you to look within and discover him again.
Growing up, so many of us heard, "Grow up and act your age," or "Stop acting like a child," or "Stop laughing."
It takes a lot of work to bring out the wonderful childlike qualities we all possess. But, with some persistence, you can reclaim that vital part of you that would be so fulfilling to you and your wife.
Set aside a day to be alone with your wife and ask her to go for a drive.
Do not have an agenda.
Get in your car and start driving, with no destination in mind.
Stop whenever you feel like it.
Eat whenever you feel like it.
Stop to admire the view.
Stop and take a walk.
The point is that the more you practice being spontaneous, the easier it will get.
Give yourself permission to break out of your adult habit of being responsible twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. I promise you, the world won't come to an end and you'll begin to feel more lighthearted about life in general.