Relationship advice: I Want My Wife Back
Question
I gave up a great job so my wife could move to another state to advance in her career. Things were going great until she started aerobic lessons. Needless to say, my wife ran off with the aerobic instructor. After a year they have gone their separate ways.
I have never given up on her or our love. We were so close before all this happened. I'm worried that I have lost her forever. I desperately want us to work things out. We are still friends and sometimes go out to dinner. I tried to convince her to try again, but she's not sure if she really wants to.
I need your relationship advice! What can I do to make her come back?
Our Relationship Advice
You must surely love your wife a lot to have forgiven her for what she has done. It really sounds as if you have put yourself in the sacrificial role and when you get sacrificed, you are left surprised and bereft.
What you are dealing with here is an issue of personal honor and that's what you should be focusing on. You need to reclaim your power and the ability to honor yourself. You need to find your own space and you need to get a life of your own.
The right woman who loves you just the way you are, will come into your life.
Our relationship advice to you is that it's up to you to develop your own vigorous life force energies, and use it to create the life you want. A life that is fulfilling to you.
It sounds as if your happiness has always been dependent on your wife. That's sure to spell disaster. Your life is dependent upon you creating it in a way that fulfills you. If you need someone else to do that for you, you will be left high and dry time and time again.
Desperately needing something or someone is not a healthy situation.
Just like a drug addict is addicted to a particular drug and cannot live without it, you are addicted to your wife. You need to break free NOW before your dependency on her gets worse.
She has already betrayed you once. She can surely do it again.
Why do you want somebody who has been deceptive to you back in your life?
There is a lesson to be learned and if you do not learn your lesson, life will provide for you harsher situations until you get the point.
It seems you have forgotten to love and respect yourself. You need your wife to be with you for you to feel love and happiness.
Remember, what you believe yourself to be and what you expect is what the universe will gave back to you. Life is now giving you this opportunity to remember that loving yourself is the first step to experiencing true love and freedom.
Only when you truly love yourself can you truly love others without the need for their approval and without depending on them.
We hope this relationships advice helps...