Relationship Advice: Does He Care for Me?
Question
My man is a very good guy. He gives me all the room I need to develop myself in whatever I do.
When I have a problem or I need some feedback, he does not get involved and leaves it up to me to solve.
What's your relationship advice? Does he or does he not care for me?
Our Relationship Advice
When is your man there for you? When does he share and interact with you? Sounds like not a lot! Why do you settle for that? I know it sounds harsh but you need to ask yourself if he is just using you to satisfy his pleasures.
Do you believe that you are worth giving time and energy to? You are important and so are your interests, experiences and problems. Your partner needs to acknowledge that and he needs to be there for you when you need him, not only when he needs you.
Being independent is great but being too independent and not caring when your partner needs you is a problem.
People are naturally interdependent in relationships. Both partners must be there for one another for a healthy balance. People in relationships need to relate and share with each other in order to grow and develop together. They show support and interest in each other's lives. It's all part of being in love.
It doesn't sound like your guy shows much involvement in the relationship. What does he want then? Just a place to hang out? Somebody to cook and fulfill his sexual needs. You need to look at why he isn't willing to take ANY kind of a standpoint on any issue.
Our relationship advice for you is to confront him with any concerns you have and I'd stand firm in what YOU want and need.
If your partner has the belief that you are too dependent on opinions, you need to reassure him that although you would like to get his opinion it does not mean that you will take it up.
It is just that you would like to see things from a different perspective than your own. Explain to him that in this way you might see things that otherwise you would have missed.
If, after you speak your truth to him and tell him exactly what you need in a relationship and he still shows little or no interest in your relationship then our relationship advice would probably be to think about letting go and looking elsewhere for Mr. Right.
We hope this relationship advice helps...