Emotional Infidelity: A Key Tactic To Save The Marriage - part 1
by Dr. Robert Huizenga
Hearing that your cheating spouse is "in love" with someone else is devastating. I hear often, "I can handle her having sex with someone else. I think I can live with that. But, for her to give herself emotionally and "love" someone else.man, that is hard." (Feel free to substitute the word he for she in this article.)
What can you specifically do to increase the odds of saving the marriage?
So often the offended spouse reacts with intense feelings and pulls out all stops to "win her back."
He applies pressure. Begs. Cajoles. Makes promises. Gets in her face. Sends flowers. Arranges for dates. Talks to her family and friends. Calls her on the phone. Asks questions. daily, sometimes hourly. He is on her like a fly on doo-doo.
It doesn't work.Why? Well, for one reason she has found all the stimulation and excitement she supposedly needs in her new found "love."
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At a deeper level this is confusing enough for the cheating husband or cheating wife. Any additional input will be overwhelming and she is liable to close the door on the marriage even further. Plus, she is really looking for some stability, some solid centered core that will hold her firm when the wind of drama entices her and blows around her.
If you bombard her with your neediness, you are certainly not the person who can help her in ways she really seeks.
She also is liable to create a polarity and begin comparing you to him. With your neediness dripping all over you, you don't stand a very good chance of coming out on top. Sorry!
Here's a tactic that helps solve the dilemma and gives you a greater chance of saving the marriage.It's called "back off!"
Stop pressing. Slow down the pace. Be silent - most of the time. Stop making requests. Stop asking questions. Stop trying to wiggle out some assurance. Stop being a pain!
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Emotional Infidelity: A Key Tactic To Save The Marriage
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