Sex Advice:
Sometimes, I'm Too Dry and It Hurts
Question
When my husband and I have sex, sometimes I feel too dry inside, and often it hurts.
There are also times when I feel a pain in my abdomen when he's in too deep.
What should I do?
Our Sex Advice
Don't despair.
All you might need is the right vaginal lubricant, and there's an array to choose from: Astroglide, Probe, Wet, and Erogel are some of the safe brands that can assist the gliding process.
However, it may also be that you are really not turned on enough for what he wants to do with your body, therefore more foreplay may be required.
Spend more time before "the Act" getting revved up and ready to go.
Try reading a sexy story aloud, watching an erotic movie, or sharing secret fantasies to spark your mind and body into action. Kissing, fondling, caressing and slowly getting into sexual exploration may also be a part of the dance that's lacking for you: Rely on a waltz before the frenzied peak of penetration.
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If you have pain, seek medical help right away. It may be an infection, inflammation or condition that requires attention. Or, he may be pounding the pleasure right out of you. Tell him, so that together you can create the pattern that's pleasing for both of you. Concentrate on what feels right and good, inside and out.