Sex Advice:
I Prefer Cybersex Over Sex With My Husband
Question
Since I have been online I have cybersex daily with one or more partners. As a result, sex with my husband is no longer exciting to me.
What should I do?
Our Sex Advice
Get those hands off the keys, girlfriend!
Cybersex is wonderful - exciting, new "partners" on a regular flow, daring to do the unthinkable online. A veritable celebration of living out one's fantasy... and... alone, safe and sound, at a plastic keyboard and completely devoid of human touch.
Hmmmm, sex?
Check out what's really going on for you in cyberspace versus under the covers with hubby before you date another screen buddy.
Ask yourself, what's missing on the home front?
Are you spending quality, sensual and sexual time together?
Are there unresolved angers and resentments pulling you apart and dulling the flame?
Have you stopped energizing your ongoing fantasy of HIM and instead slipped into the everyday ennui of familiarity and the (yawn) SSDD, as in "Same Stuff, Different Day", syndrome?
It just may be that you are wired, so to speak, to dance with the unknown, chase the unattainable and explore the forbidden.
I cannot tell you what to do, but suggest rethinking your real life (as in husband) and constructed one (online dudes). One concrete thought is to get your husband online with you, at a different computer, and try cyberdating the one you already have!
It makes me think of "Irma La Douce", in which Irma (the hooker) marries a guy who ends up hiring her for sex so that he gets a turn...