Sex Advice:
Gender Fetish, How Far to Let it Go?
Question
My husband wants to do a gender reversal. He wants me to dress butch with him wearing my clothes. Then he wants to play the girl and seduce me.
Is this normal?
How far should I allow it to go?
Our Sex Advice
Your husband's request is somewhat out of the ordinary, so it's not "normal" in the sense of "popular."
But it's harmless, so it's not "abnormal" in the sense of "unhealthy."
Sex is adult play. He's told you how he wants to play. The question is: Do you want to play that way? And if so, do you want to play exactly his way? Or perhaps modify things a bit to suit you better?
If you're not sure, you might experiment playing his way, and seeing how you feel about it. If issues come up for you, feel free to set limits. Be clear on what you're willing and unwilling to try.
Then, within your limits, let yourself go. Plenty of men enjoy cross-dressing - perhaps you and your husband would like to rent the video of Tootsie, with Dustin Hoffman as a transvestite, or Mrs. Doubtfire, with Robin Williams as a woman.
On the other hand, if cross-dressing and gender-bending play is not your erotic cup of tea, feel free to terminate the experiment and tell your husband that you no longer want to play that way.