Sex Advice:
Giving Oral Pleasure: How to Do and Enjoy It
Question
I've been married for many years and have never given my husband oral sex.
Lately it's something I'd like to do for him.
I've asked him to tell me how to do it, and he did. But I still can't get my brain to let go and just do it.
Our Sex Advice
Great that you are willing to jump out of the old mold and join the ranks of the sexually courageous. Yes, it does take courage and some sound ideas for breaking your own patterns to become skilled at something you have never done before. But with some new input and a little guidance from your lover, you will reach your new sexual goal easily.
There are two tricks about giving oral pleasure to a man:
- You have to feel confident and skilled at what you do, and
- You will find it most successful when you, the giver, find pleasure in your actions.
For some women the concept of actually enjoying giving oral sex to a man is strange, but once you allow your mind to eroticize giving pleasure as a way to sexually stimulate yourself, you will never want to stop. Okay, maybe it is a bit too enthusiastic, but it's true that most women who do not enjoy fellatio (oral sex on a man) have not tuned in to their own pleasure receptors and, therefore, miss the feelings of arousal that so often emerge during this sexual connection.
Before you start with your lover, you can also practice.
Using a penis-shaped sex toy (yes, a banana will work too), you can gain self-confidence and test some tricks and strategies using a variety of strokes and pressures.
After a few secret sessions alone, you will feel more at ease doing it for real on your husband.
If you want to gain oral sex mastery and let go of your fear of being inadequate, start by reading the Art of Lovemaking course.
Lesson 20 - Oral Loving for Him - is the one for you.
To truly become a virtuoso, make sure to follow all the lessons...
Lastly, be sure to ask the expert who goes to sleep right next to you at night (your husband, of course) to find out what exactly he likes so that you can truly enjoy turning him - and you - on.
What else will he like? Find out more in the Art of Lovemaking email course.