Tantra - the Art and Magic of Sexual Ecstasy
Tantra for couples is the experience of meditative, intimate
and passionate sex for a lifetime together.
One of our greatest sources of pleasure - and one of our greatest sources of disappointment - is sexual intimacy.
So here is something that looks like sex , and yes, it sounds like sex. However, this isn't your old 20-minute in-out-in-out session.
It's Tantra - a complex mixture of yoga, meditation, ritual and intercourse that originated in India more than 5000 years ago.
And, despite its dusty spiritual history, it can and should be the ultimate passion, intimacy and love booster in your marriage sex life.
Experience Tantra in Your Marriage
In The Art of Lovemaking e-book you'll practice tantra and other methods, which step-by-step will show you how to prolong your sexual pleasure, expand orgasm to a full body experience, increase your sexual sensitivity, overcome sexual inhibitions, experience multiple orgasm and ultimately, transform sexuality into ecstatic physical-emotional-spiritual experience.
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Tantric lovemaking opens you to one another on every level: sexually, intimately and spiritually... making both of you naked and beautifully vulnerable. It isn't just a moment of physical pleasure; it is an intense feeling of deep, loving connection with your partner, where opposites cease to exist, and your male and female energies flow together in total harmony.
How is tantric sex done?
The immediate respond would be, "very slowly."
In keeping with the old saying "good things come to those who wait", tantra teaches that patience and preparation are the keys to greater sexual enjoyment. No wonder, then, that compared to "regular sex" - tantra sex lasts longer. And in most cases, longer-lasting sex equals longer-lasting relationships.
On the surface, tantra is a slowed-down, more attentive version of "regular sex."
It looks a bit like this: the lovers slowly undress and then breathe deeply, gazing into each other's eyes. Holding hands, they concentrate on creating a flow of energy.
They then share a ritual, such as bathing together, exchanging gifts, or giving each other a full-body massage.
Foreplay is prolonged, with the lovers exploring each other's bodies "as if for the first time." They tell each other what they want and what feels good. Anything goes, from hair brushing and toe sucking to body painting and feather tickling.
Men prolong their erections through slow, controlled thrusting; women experience multiple orgasms through vaginal massage and vaginal muscle flexing.
On a deeper level, tantra teaches a few principals that when understood and practiced , will open your way to experience deeper intimacy and sexual ecstasy in your marriage:
Love Yourself Before You Can Love Another
Love begins with loving yourself. When you try to love your partner and you do not love yourself, it does not work. You end up feeling possessive, jealous and dependent.
You need to realize that you don't need your partner to feel whole.
You are the source of your own pleasure. How rich is your sexual experience is ultimately up to you. No one can give you sexual ecstasy; it comes from within.
Through the practice of tantra, you will discover yourself as the lover within. You will experience sexual loving as a beautiful cooperation between two equal partners. You will learn to honor each other's differences, and move to a space of respect and acceptance.
Say Yes to Whatever There Is
Tantra teaches you to accept anything that is happening in the moment. You may feel beautiful, excited, daring or pleasurable - say yes to it. You may however feel shy, bored, scared or resistant - say yes to it too. Tantra encourages you to find the 'yes' in you to any situation - even to your 'no'. Reality is as it is in the moment. Any attempt to resist what is here now only causes pain and suffering.
Drop Your Guilt Trip
Even though we are children of the sexual revolution, we are still largely conditioned by belief systems that may have been instilled in us guilt, fear, insecurity or shame. Such negative imprints, although they may reside quietly in our unconscious and cause only minor or occasional disturbances, rarely allow us to experience the full potential of sexual love.
Tantra helps you transform these negative conditionings and explore the realm of ecstatic sex.
Enjoy Your Playfulness and Spontaneity
We all take sex very seriously.
Most of us are very performance oriented.
It is time to grow up and become like kids again.
Laughter, spontaneity, lighthearted playfulness, humor, role-playing and childlike exploration are basic techniques of tantra. It is time to play and discover the joy and fulfillment while aligning your body, heart and mind in tantric sex.
There are many times in a loving and sexual relationship with your partner that situations develop that might make you feel embarrassed with someone you are not close to. However, with your loving, sexual partner, you should be able to feel relaxed and at ease enough so that you can laugh with each other and continue to arouse each other and be aroused sexually.
Breathe In - Breathe Out
Breath is another key to tantra. Breathing practice (breathing through the mouth and relaxing enough to allow the breath to reach all the way into the deep belly and the genitals) assists you in remaining focused on sexual and emotional feelings during lovemaking.
Increased ability to feel these feelings with your partner during sex is the difference between "good sex" and "ecstatic sex."
Expand Your Pleasure Limits
Our culture has conditioned us to believe that we don't really deserve pleasure, that enjoying ourselves is selfish, that giving pleasure is more honoring than receiving it, and that having fun is a waste of time.
When we do allow ourselves to receive pleasure, we put on ourselves conditions like, "I should give something back"; or "I'm taking too much of his or her time"; or "I shouldn't show how much I enjoy this, or he'll think I'm a whore!"
Tantra helps you to develop the ability to be totally and unconditionally receptive to pleasure, giving you the permission to close your eyes, lie back, relax and let it happen.
Tantra is focused on the five senses as ways for us to experience life and pleasure fully. Practicing tantra, you will often seduce one another with sensual delights such as scented baths, delicious foods and beautiful body decorations as a way to increase sexual sensitivity and expand your pleasure limits.
Discover Meditation
You may wonder what meditation has to do with sensuality and sexuality.
Tantra is a practice of moving beyond the mind...
When we are thinking we are not feeling and, if we are not feeling, we are not in our natural sexual flow.
Tantra teaches us many ways of being present so that we can experience lovemaking without the mind's judgments, fears and anxieties.
In long-term marriage, there is a tendency for lovemaking to become routine, an automatic process, which reduces your capacity for enjoyment. By quieting the mind, meditation allows freshness and innocence to return to the act of lovemaking.
Forget Your Concept of Orgasm
For a start, you'll need to drop the idea (if you have one) that the end goal of sex is to have a great orgasm (or three!) Orgasm is only one aspect of the sexual act.
Tantra encourages you to enjoy the journey of making love - the destination may surprise you!
The focus in tantra is on opening to deeper and deeper sensations of pleasure and connection. If you rush to a goal of orgasm, there's a good chance you've missed some very exciting side-roads along the way.
Experience Tantra in Your Marriage
Using The Art of Lovemaking ebook you'll practice tantra and other methods, which step-by-step will show you how to prolong your sexual pleasure, expand orgasm to a full body experience, increase your sexual sensitivity, overcome sexual inhibitions, experience multiple orgasm and ultimately, transform sexuality into ecstatic physical-emotional-spiritual experience.
Click here for more information.