Wife has always seemed she can "Take it or Leave it"

by Sumdumgi
(USA)

I am very sexual and love nothing more than to really please a woman. I feel disappointed if I cant accomplish this. I have been married for 22 years. I have had an adequate number of sexual partners in the past and was always able to more than please them.

My wife and I sometimes have GREAT sex.
Most of the time its just a quickie before bed time, routine. I don't get excited by a quickie. I want to take my time with her and really please her. Its really strange but pleasing her pleases me...

She has always seemed to be afraid to share her desires with me sexually. She seems uptight about it. Like she really isn't interested.

At one point in our marriage she told me that she was raised to believe that uninhabited sex was dirty.

I love sex and have no rules... how can I get her to be more open about her sexual desires?

We have 3 kids, the youngest being 13, middle 17, oldest 20. We are very busy. She doesn't work but is involved in many projects that require a good deal of her time. We both exercise regularly and have no physical ailments.

We have at times gone parking and both really enjoyed that. She seems to be against using toys, going down on her for extended periods of time & anal is out of the question. She also keeps her legs tight and doesn't open up. I think she holds back during orgasm as well.

Any ideas on how I can better treat my lady?
I don't want to stray away but have done so before.